Five Reasons Why It’s Better To Reject People You Don’t Deserve In Your Life

You’ve probably met some, or all of the kinds of people who bring toxicity in your life. It could be a nagging sibling, a micromanaging supervisor, a very demeaning boss or a condescending authority. These people may even be some family members, or even the changes in your partner in life.


You have your own life and your own reason to live, and these people have their own expectations of you. If they continue tearing apart the personal ideal you want to have or to be, then it would be best to reject them from your life.
1. Expectations

Dealing with expectations is difficult. You’ll be subject to an ideal a supervisor presents you. Your parents want you to take this particular life route. But you have your own say with your life because it is yours. Nobody should tell you what to do.
2. Detachment

Attachment is the biggest reason why most people comply with others’ expectations instead of their own ideal for themselves. When you are attached, you treat things objectively. You end up making the decision for yourself rather than for other people.
3. Productivity

Without toxicity in your life, you become more productive. You could concentrate on those projects you have put off to meet the expectations of people you don’t need. You could focus on creating yourself completely.
4. Capability

With betterment comes your better self. You could tackle almost every difficulty without trouble because you could rely on yourself and you see things in a productive manner.
5. Ideal

In the end, by rejecting people you don’t need in your life, you reach your goals without trouble. You find yourself in a place where you want to be.

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Are You Who You Want To Be? Here Are a Few Ways to Know

One experiences self-realisation and self-actualisation if he or she is doing their passion or enjoying their work. The high unemployment of today’s world prevents many from realising their full potential with their self-awareness. This hampers their development because their position will not permit themselves to grow. Here’s a small list of things to consider to know if you are who you want to be.

1. I am Getting What I Want Out of Life

A high-paying job that could pay for everything is not always a happy job. It can be time-consuming. It could have you miss the most important parts of your life. Is your pay worth the time and effort you spend on it? If you are not getting what you want out of life and your work is not making your end goal materialise, you may need to re-assess your life.

2. Am I Happy?

Work should be a passionate and happy endeavour. It should allow you to swing to one growth opportunity to another. An unsatisfying job should be left at once because it will not contribute to personal growth, regardless how high the compensation.

3. Is it Making People Around Me Happy?

Sad, disappointed and anxious people who care for you are sure signs your life needs to turn around. Work stress could get to you. You may spend less time with your significant other and your children. You are not sure of your standing at the current situation. Ask the people around you if they are happy for you and you may be surprised yourself.

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Why Music is Important In One’s Life

The subconscious will always be part of our daily life, even if it is acting in a passive manner. From the time we wake up, dreams often invade our first consciousness as we try to see if such event from a dream can actually happen in real life. Music then dominates our entire day, reflecting our mood based on the excitement our senses need from auditory stimulation.

Numerous tests had proven that music is a universal language. It synchronises musicians’ brains during a performance, and shows the intelligence associated with improvisation especially in numerous genres. Music is more than just entertainment; it helps one’s consciousness grow and expand.

Music reflects in life that it is not all about the things we perceive, but also the imagination and idealism associated with it. Most songs are about describing ideal situations, it can be a way a person might perceive him or herself. It might also describe real life situations, or an expression of satisfaction or dissatisfaction, arranged in a very appealing and musical manner.

If you listen to music often, then you have once been an idealist, and you see that music is a journey that evolves as much as a story. But unlike the close world of novels, the idealism, emotions and feelings felt when listening to a song becomes part of your own story, which makes music very important in one’s life

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Understanding the Very Nature of Cynicism and Depression

Cynicism and depression are two things that instantly destroy the humanity inside a person. The rejection of reality or the recognition of one’s powerlessness to affect or change the reality can have one question his or her capability as a person. Humans are built to function through instincts and ideals, but being unable to do these things can make one question his or her own sanity.

Cynicism an ideal left unfulfilled because of a harsh, uncontrollable reality that blocks the ideal from being achieved. Oftentimes, this is through human limitation, which the idealist gives up because it is beyond their means of understanding. This is where people would often say the line that dreams do not come true.

Depression on the other hand is when the human limitation takes hold of a person and he or she believes that they do not have the capability to become who they want to be because of an impossible obstacle. This may be similar to cynicism, but it is emotionally affected.

The only solution to both things is to make the person believe that they have the will power to survive and still understand the world. Making them recognise they only lack the tools, but nothing is wrong with them, is the key to overcoming such obstacles. It is similar to a difficult literature problem; when you have not read the book or have any other literature to compare your report to, you do not have the tools. You have responded well, but your response is not found on solid ground, which tools can provide.

There is nothing wrong with you, but the method must be wrong in itself.

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How Dreams and Aspirations Intertwine With Philosophy

Human are different from animals because of their capability to rationalise things. In being rational, they can aspire to be higher than just a surviving species; they can realise things. In this, humans can dream, have a goal and fulfil themselves according to their capabilities.

With their current capabilities, humans achieve great achievements. However, dreams can elevate to higher places. Realising their incapability, humans will try to improve their capabilities, a stepladder towards their own goal.

However, some stepladders tend not to be enough, and humans can fail. When they fail, this is when they try harder, with passion for their dream. With enough tries, a human fails, and this is where a “safety net” of ideologies will take hold of them.

This is how philosophy interacts with a human’s dreams and aspirations. Philosophy tries to explain the human nature, majority of which when failure is tantamount. However, philosophy does not hold the answer, only another picture, and sometimes, it leads to the cynicism of an individual.

A human must remember that their rationality is the springboard to their dreams, and if they rationalise the realities with absurdities too often, they may end up being dreamless, reverting only to survive, rather than fulfil. They may also decide to just remain in one single place where they realise their dreams cannot be fulfilled, and the absurd is constant.

It is human nature to dream, and to stop it is to stop being human. Philosophy is only a guide, but in the end, it is the choice of the human to see their capabilities, and what they need to do to fulfil their goals, no matter how ambitious or unrealistic it may seem.

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Knowing When One Thing is Enough

Passion is a powerful feeling that is equivalent to love. When one finds his or her passion, he or she will give everything to ensure that their passions are given a good chance to grow. However, passion can be destructive. It could destroy the very fabric of logic to fulfil a long-time dream that will fulfil one’s perceived destiny.

Passion will always involve parts of one’s life that will have him or her to the point of breaking. This will often result in reducing their capabilities to become efficient on their own. For example, a battered wife, who continues to accept her husband, has reduced her capabilities because she is physically maimed. This is passion where one does not have control of him or herself regardless of the situation.

Knowing when one thing is enough is important to fulfil one’s hopes and dreams. A good relationship is where you could be yourself while having control over yourself and your tendencies. It is also a good passion if it raises your person into a whole new level and helps you grow as a person.

Blind passion is when you suffer just to satisfy your instinctive whims. As humans, we were made with a mind to think with, and satisfying passion in a way that helps one progress is the key to survival, and probably the very reason for living itself.

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It Is In Our Nature to Be Unfair

Society placed laws to ensure that everyone has equal rights to be free, but it is important to impose restrictions on those freedoms to ensure that no freedom is unequal with the other. This is called individual rights, and sometimes, the freedom of others steps over those rights, which have them take an unfair share.

However, it is inevitable that humans have the nature to be unfair. Everyone is drawn to achieving greater power. Those in power could manipulate everyone in a capitalist society, even the government. The government needs corporations to support public projects, especially when these companies pay higher taxes, but if the corporations added a bit more, the law becomes irrelevant.

At this point, it would be wise to say that society’s laws are just gauges of existing corruption in the government.

However, who can blame anybody for the imbalance? People consume alcohol and cigarettes to feel certain chemical imbalances that occupy their time and allow them to be themselves. When one breaks the law, one extends his or her freedom and disregards the rights of others, and in order to live a full life, the extension of this freedom is highly important.

Inevitably, it is in our nature to be unfair, especially when we become passionate, emotional and greatly attached to something that involves extending one’s freedom.

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Payment Protection Insurance Claims Still a Long Way to Go

According to Financial Ombudsman Chief Tony Boorman, PPI claims have dropped significantly from over 266,000 in the first half of 2013, to 190,000 in the second half, but it is still “depressingly high.” Boorman, along with FSCS Chief Executive Mark Neale, consider PPI to have not yet reached its peak.

 

Boorman said that “We’re still a long way from being able to say that PPI is sorted once and for all. Over 1,000 people every day are still asking us to sort out PPI problems that they’ve not been able to resolve directly with their bank.”

According to the FOS, RBS, Lloyds Banking Group, Barclays, HSBC and MBNA accounted for 70% of the PPI complaints the organization receives daily. The five financial institutions also make up the largest chunk in the current £25 billion PPI recompense package for the United Kingdom.

FSCS Mark Neale said that they project an increase of 20% in the number of complaints the Financial Services Compensation Scheme will handle this year. The FSCS also handles complaints regarding financial products and services.

Neale said that the peak of PPI will still go on in a few years, but not in 2014 or 2015. The FSCS research cannot tell when, but the number of complaints is still fluctuating and has not yet plateaued at this point.

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Why We Are All Getting Impatient

Technology is the biggest thing of the future, and storytellers and those who predicted that technology will improve in the next few decades never missed the beat. The designs might seem wrong, but everything reasonably feels right. The internet is the biggest technological advancement in the world that facilitated everything, including other procedures for many people.

However, the internet is convenient in helping us find something that could help us escape from reality. Travel blogs describing about tropical destinations that seem really fun are really fun. Videogames downloadable over the internet paid or pirated are great distractions. You could look at fantastic art that in the old world would not have existed, or you needed to visit a gallery or buy a picture book to see.

The conveniences of the internet and its convenient involvement in our daily lives are actually costing us our patience. Before, you need to look through a library for 3 hours before you found the sources you needed. Today, you could just input a few words and do a few clicks and voila, you have your resources.

The internet swiftly introduce attention deficit disorders to extended-use surfers because the internet caters to any form of random thought.

Convenience has its perks, but definitely, the internet is making us impatient with all the fast resource location and impeccable communication services that drive away our attention instantly.

 

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Choosing One’s Responsibilities Carefully

The internet is probably one of the best modern conveniences that humankind had ever conceived. If you need to talk to someone, just connect to the internet and find their name. If you need to know about something, just use the search engine and you can definitely find what you’re looking for. Even skills we want to learn, is possible to learn in textbook-style or video demonstrations that could slow down if we needed to.

With these new-generation technologies enabling us to improve our abilities, some people try to gain an advantage over other people with their knowledge. Sure, I could say it’s just the internet and I’m a car engine expert, I still know lots of things more than you by experience, but some people can perform research that can par my knowledge even without experience.

Sometimes, this particular “knowledge overload” could make life more complicated rather than provide a solution. I’ve noticed this in with one of my friends.

He was already a young professional and doing well. He learned how to make money through the stock market by studying through the internet alone. He was earning great millions, but he said that he was still not happy.

I thought why wouldn’t he be happy? He has a good wife, he was doing the things he loves at work (architecture), he can provide for at least three children’s futures in education and the professional world.

Then I thought, maybe he had so much responsibilities. He said that he did not feel free. Freedom is happiness.

We have always been warned to choose our own battles, and choosing our responsibilities carefully is similar to such. Choosing our own responsibilities and challenges will add stress, skills and improvement to us. Sometimes, these improvements may be undesirable for us in the long run. This is why we need to be careful with the things we are willing to learn, and willing to take responsibility of.

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